The idea of being in a relationship with a snake or any other wild creature is contrary to common sense. I often say, “Don’t hate a snake for being a snake.” Various wild creatures and humans alike have certain natures and ways. They are either born that way, or through some trauma or training, they’ve become how they are.
You cannot change the nature of any animal or human.
Only Jesus can change people’s hearts and thus evidence of changed thoughts and actions in the lives of individuals. Many live out entire lives unaware that Jesus has already given them the power to change. Sometimes it’s just too hard.
Sometimes you are called to be in relationship with people who have a nature that makes them difficult, even dangerous – a parent, spouse, boss, family member, teacher.
Don’t make these mistakes:
- Mistreat them back in response to harsh words or hurtful actions
- Attempt to reason with them
- Believe that you deserve their treatment, or that hateful words are accurate
Take these attitudes and actions while you wait for God to work the situation out:
- Pray that God will give you wisdom and patience (Proverbs 3: 1- 6)
- Trust that God will work it out and all things for your good (Romans 8:28)
- Know that God has a timeframe set for this person’s influence over your life
- Treat the person with respect, courtesy. Fulfill your duties as if unto God (Ephesians 6: 7 – 8)
- Never raise your voice in anger or attempt to orchestrate corrective or vindictive actions
- Limit your time with this person to reasonably anticipated encounters, e.g. work or school hours, family group events. If you live alone with this person, focus on 1 – 5.
Ultimately, believe that this relationship is not an accident. Whatever is happening in a difficult relationship is part of some lesson and training that God will turn into good for you and others, if you will trust him and allow him to work it out.
God will not do your part in this relationship, which is to wait on his timing and for the steps above. If you take the situation into your hands by lashing out, running away, or some other “reasoned” step you might change the outcome God has planned. There may be a time to literally flee or even defend yourself and others with real actions, but you will know when those are the right actions if you are daily praying and trusting in faith that God hears and sees everything.