Nothing messes up a girl’s mind more than a mirror held up beside an image of another girl. She’s comparing herself to the other girl. What she’ll decide is that she’s uglier or prettier than the other girl. Either way, she loses.
The key to feeling secure in yourself and at peace about how you look is not to compare yourself to others at all. You’ll always find yourself better or worse. And, it’s never a fair comparison. There are just too many factors. You are unique, like a snowflake or finger print. There’s never been one just like you before, nor will there ever be one like you again.
However, as primates, we are prone to comparison. It’s how we learn how to behave. We find someone to imitate that we think is getting what we want, usually positive attention, power, fame, money. This begins as early as the 4th grade for many.
Next, we attempt to imitate that person in speech, dress, and actions. If it works, we continue the imitation. If it does not, we begin to look for reasons why not. For girls, this usually leads to an unfortunate conclusion – “I’m not pretty enough.”
We blame the external on what’s an inside job.
Yes, guys flock to physically attractive women. But, to find a suitable partner that you will want to spend your life with does not require Hollywood beauty. The right person for you is about a host of internal factors. External beauty fades fast. Inner beauty grows with age.
Make up your mind. The mirror is not your judge. Don’t compare yourself to the appearance of other women. Look to what you admire about the quality of their relationships and accomplishments. Maybe there’s a takeaway for you.
If you compare how you look on the outside to how another human looks on the outside, you will be fooled.
What you want is to be loved, honored, and appreciated by the people in your life. It’s a lie of Satan to believe that if only your body was different or your face or hair prettier, anyone would love you more.